What's Eating You? Do you feel anxious about not being able to control yourself around all that amazing food at holiday events?
The idea of watching our weight is probably most prevalent – with the exception of bathing suit season – during the holidays, simply because of the amount of exposure we have to the foods we typically avoid!
Think about it. Your co-worker brings in baked goods. You go to the hair salon and they have candy at the front desk. The supermarket has a tasting station of the latest goodies. And you are invited to holiday parties with buffets that seem to go on for miles.
And then there are the memories. So many of our favorite holiday memories from childhood are centered around food. We recall the traditional dinners and priceless moments shared while baking the family’s tried and true cookie recipes. It is indeed our culture that equates food with love, hope and joy. Let’s face it. Food equals joy! There’s no getting around it. And this, in and of itself, is not a bad thing!
All the sights, sounds and smells during this time of year ignite a visceral response that can trigger something more than the desire to eat. Movies and the media show happy families gathered around a table of bounty with everyone enjoying and having a great time. These Norman Rockwell scenes can also trigger events from holiday’s past that were less than picturesque.
It’s more than just about the food. (It’s always more than about the food.) You see, our emotions, life experiences and memories – both good and bad – trigger something inside us that longs to be fulfilled. And for many, at least momentarily, the perfect antidote to filling this void is food. I say momentarily because afterwards many feel disappointed, angered and even shameful about their actions.
I’m not a diet or nutrition expert, but I do try to abide by all things in moderation. And this philosophy is tested for me personally during this time of festivities. If you too are challenged with not over-indulging, here is a tapping script that will help. I use it before I’m heading out to a gathering or party. And I also use a slight variation before dinner time on a regular basis.
Even though I’m afraid I may over-indulge on food at (fill in the blank), I completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel sort of anxious at the thought of not being able to stop myself at (fill in the blank), I completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel anxious about possibly over-indulging on foot at (fill in the blank, I totally and completely love and accept myself.
Begin with the eyebrow point and tap through the statements. After each breath and pause, begin the next round of tapping.
I’m both excited and anxious about going to _____________.
There are going to be so many of my favorite things to eat there.
I’m afraid I won’t be able to stop.
One bite and I can’t control myself.
It’s like I don’t have control of myself.
That worries me.
That makes me feel awful about myself.
I’ve tried and I just can’t do it.
I have so many events to attend, what if I can’t control myself at any of them.
I think about it and loath my behavior already!
I know I haven’t done anything – yet – and I already feel ashamed of my lack of control.
But it’s the holidays and I deserve to enjoy.
I know how I always feel after I over-indulge.
My body feels terrible and I feel disappointed in myself.
I don’t think I can control myself around all my favorite holiday foods.
I just feel like giving up.
I wonder if there is a way for me to have everything thing I love but not over-indulge.
What if I took smaller portions?
Could I really stop myself from getting more?
I don’t think I can.
I think I can try.
I don’t think I can.
I think I can try.
I wonder if I can go to _________ and not feel anxious about over-indulging on food.
I do have a lot of holiday events to attend.
Maybe I can test a new approach where I tap before I go and really look forward to who I’ll see at the party.
What if I take all the things I love to eat and trust I know when to stop?
I choose to take each food I love on my plate and savor each bite slowly.
I choose to listen to the signals my body is giving me so I know when to stop.
Maybe I’ll take a break and walk around. Maybe I’ll get another glass of water.
Maybe I will slowly revel in the smells and tastes and honor the experience.
I have a lot of holiday events to attend and I choose to enjoy my favorite foods and trust I know when I’ve had my fill.
By all means, enjoy the holidays and all the trimmings…guiltlessly! Try the tapping…you may be surprised how this will soon become a non-issue!
Paula G. Rosario
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