Welcome to Day 12 of the 12 Days of Guilty Pleasures. Along with the juicy treats below, I recorded an audio to accompany this last and special day of the Guilty Pleasures Revolution.
Woohoo! Celebrate! You have made it through to the 12th and final Day of Guilty Pleasures! So how was it for you? I think it’s fitting that today, Valentine’s Day, being the ultimate Love Day is our 12th day of loving ourselves a little more!
But this is not the end…. it is a glimmer at a new beginning of you feeling your best and putting you back on your priority list. I want to encourage you to be kind to yourself – I’ve heard it so many times, that working moms are their own worst critics. Well, I can tell you from experience that being my own worst critic is not a motivator!
It’s the raw and real topics that are never talked about and kept hidden deep within. Thankfully the lid is being blown off the idea of embracing our vulnerabilities and perceived “short comings” by Brené Brown, research professor at the University of Houston’s Graduate College of Social Work who has spent the past 10 years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
She says, “I’m imperfect and I’m afraid sometimes but this doesn’t take away the fact that I’m also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” And so are you – worthy of your own time, attention and loving self-care!
5 Ways Your Life Will Improve By You Loving You
Here are three Guilty Pleasures I simply cannot do without:
They say a picture is worth 1,000 words. To commemorate The Guilty Pleasures Revolution, I created the graphic below as a word-picture from these 12 Days!
And as a special gift to say I love you, be sure to get all 12 Guilty Pleasures Affirmations to add them to your Affirmation Tree.
Here's to choosing you!
2/12/2013 0 Comments
Welcome again to the Guilty Pleasures Revolution!
Today, on Day 10, we're going to talk about a small little word with great big power.
No…… Sometimes the littlest things have the biggest impact in our lives. Take the word no for instance. Such a small and simple word, but, boy, does it pack a powerful punch. By and large, the word no is restricting, disempowering, negative, limiting. No matter what language you say it in, for such a tiny word, no is powerful.
No even has its own symbol!
As a working mom, no also carries a lot of baggage. With all the negativity surrounding no, it’s no wonder that saying it – and really meaning it – isn’t easy when it comes to setting boundaries for ourselves.
According to the queen of self-care, Cheryl Richardson, “Setting strong boundaries is the number one way for most women to improve their lives.” In her book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care, she teaches that setting boundaries all starts with self-awareness.
By nature, I am a helper, giver, up-lifter, encourager and healer, so setting boundaries was not always an easy thing for me to do. So to heighten my self-awareness and overcome resistance, I created 3 easy steps:
1. Reframe: The word “boundaries” itself felt heavy (and pushed my guilt button), so I found my own language and renamed it “loving fences.”
2. Visualize: Close your eyes and imagine or visualize what your loving fences will look like. Make them beautiful, protective, and impermeable. Once you’ve created them, sit inside them and feel how good it feels to protect your heart and your energy, so that when you do say yes to others, you give out of love and gratitude, rather than resistance and regret.
3. Speak: Speak with conviction. If your words say no, but your tone and body language are wishy-washy, chances are you won’t be believable.
If you really mean no, avoid saying:
There are plenty of GOOD reasons why saying no is good for everyone.
Next time you are asked by someone to go somewhere or do something that you know in your heart, you’d really rather not do, call up your vision and surround yourself with your loving fences.
Affirmation for Day 10: When I choose me and say no to others, it is a gift to me and to them.
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Here's to choosing you!
As human beings we are incredibly resilient. We move from task to task, day to day, experience to experience and most times, barely give our actions thought. Until something tragic happens and it stops us in our tracks. Some say, just keep moving. While I believe that dwelling on things that cannot be changed is unproductive and can be harmful physiologically, it is precisely at this time when healing can begin.
Healing doesn't mean forgetting. Sometimes we hold on to thing because on some level we feel that if we move on and let go of the pain, that we will have left something or someone behind. The opposite is actually true. Our emotional pains get stored in the body, but when we heal our pain from a hurtful or tragic experience, we release the "re-experiencing" of it from the body itself.
Such experiences, like the unimaginable events of Newtown, will likely take months and years to heal. I want to be a part of that healing process, and so I have created a short tapping audio that I would like to share with you. You don't need to have had prior experience with EFT -- it is really like following "Simon Says". I trust you to take full responsibility for your own healing journey. If you think there is someone you know who would benefit from it, you may feel free to post to FB or forward the blog address to them.
Sending you much love and light, Paula
I am so excited and I wanted to share this with you! I was recently featured as a guest blogger on the blogsite, www.thebridgemaker.com and I have received great feedback and my article has been retweeted several times as well!
You will just love this site because it is full of inspirational articles and uplifting information. And can't we all use a little bit of that? <3
Yes, you read that correctly! I am going to have a love affair......with my heart! February is National Heart Health Month and so what better time to start new heart-ful rituals and refresh some old ones. Rituals don't need to be time consuming. Sometimes it's as simple as remembering to take your Omega 3 vitamin. Did you ever think about what your heart does for you? I mean, every second, of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month, of every year for your entire life....your heart is beating for you! It never lets you down. That's incredible. The heart is also a part of our colloquialism: "have a heart", "with all my heart", "the heart of the matter", "heartfelt", "let your heart be your guide", "wear your heart on your sleeve", and the list goes on!
According to the Institute of HeartMath, the heart has been scientifically proven to have an intelligence all its own and communicates with the brain. The heart has also been referred to as "the other brain." Your heart is often your signal of danger when it rapidly beats and can be used to calm and center yourself.
So, in celebration of Valentine's Day and the Month of February, here are 10 ways you too can have a love affair with your heart:
1. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. "Go the extra mile" and add 2,000 steps to your day.
2. Pace Instead of Race. Slow it down and take conscious breaths several times a day.
3. Accept The Things You Cannot Change. Let go of trying to fix everything.
4. Help others. Giving back to others is a self-ful act and good for your heart and soul.
5. Quiet the negative self-talk. Try saying I love you, I love you, I love you!
6. Get more sleep. On Sundays, set your alarm clock just 15 minutes later.
7. Watch an I Love Lucy episode and have a good belly laugh.
8. Getting it off your chest is good for your heart.
9. Smile. It's an easy way to burn calories.
10. Listen to your heart. Yes, your heart does speak to you.....close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and silently ask a question. And just listen.
Paula G. Rosario
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