Ever work on a puzzle? I haven't in years! The degree of difficulty of my last puzzle was likely an oversized floor puzzle my son had when he was three years old! Piece of cake. In general, I tend to find puzzles frustrating because it just seems to take a long time to complete, and I get overwhelmed by all the pieces. After I look at the picture on the box, I definitely have a distinct approach in how I will tackle the puzzle:
I realized I can apply the same process to things I want to accomplish. So when I begin to get overwhelmed by my business, and all I need to do, or if I keep procrastinating on a project, I take my puzzle approach to ease the frustration and get unstuck. Here is what it looks like:
1. Vision: Start with your vision and tap till you feel you are in a good place. (This is like the picture on the puzzle box). Ask yourself:
Be flexible! If you are at step four, and your progress doesn't match your vision, you have a choice:
1. Make adjustments to your vision.
2. Review steps 2 and 3 for changes.
How do you know if you should change your vision or your steps? It's all in the "feelings". The way you got to your vision in the first place is because it felt good! When you look back at your vision, drop down from your head (the thinking part of you) to your heart (the feeling part of you).
I hope this was helpful whether you are playing with puzzles or building your business!
2/12/2013 0 Comments
Welcome again to the Guilty Pleasures Revolution!
Today, on Day 10, we're going to talk about a small little word with great big power.
No…… Sometimes the littlest things have the biggest impact in our lives. Take the word no for instance. Such a small and simple word, but, boy, does it pack a powerful punch. By and large, the word no is restricting, disempowering, negative, limiting. No matter what language you say it in, for such a tiny word, no is powerful.
No even has its own symbol!
As a working mom, no also carries a lot of baggage. With all the negativity surrounding no, it’s no wonder that saying it – and really meaning it – isn’t easy when it comes to setting boundaries for ourselves.
According to the queen of self-care, Cheryl Richardson, “Setting strong boundaries is the number one way for most women to improve their lives.” In her book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care, she teaches that setting boundaries all starts with self-awareness.
By nature, I am a helper, giver, up-lifter, encourager and healer, so setting boundaries was not always an easy thing for me to do. So to heighten my self-awareness and overcome resistance, I created 3 easy steps:
1. Reframe: The word “boundaries” itself felt heavy (and pushed my guilt button), so I found my own language and renamed it “loving fences.”
2. Visualize: Close your eyes and imagine or visualize what your loving fences will look like. Make them beautiful, protective, and impermeable. Once you’ve created them, sit inside them and feel how good it feels to protect your heart and your energy, so that when you do say yes to others, you give out of love and gratitude, rather than resistance and regret.
3. Speak: Speak with conviction. If your words say no, but your tone and body language are wishy-washy, chances are you won’t be believable.
If you really mean no, avoid saying:
There are plenty of GOOD reasons why saying no is good for everyone.
Next time you are asked by someone to go somewhere or do something that you know in your heart, you’d really rather not do, call up your vision and surround yourself with your loving fences.
Affirmation for Day 10: When I choose me and say no to others, it is a gift to me and to them.
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Here's to choosing you!
My son Jake mastering the thrill of the ride!
By now most kids are in full swing of the school year and may have been asked by their new teachers to write a paragraph about what they did on their summer vacation. Well, at least that’s what teachers used to do back in the day!
So, I felt compelled to reflect on my summer and write my adventures!
I hadn’t really thought about it until the end of August on a beautiful day at the beach. The ocean was really warm (warm enough for me to get wet up to my knees!) and the sun fed my soul as I sat with my toes digging into the sand; hands clenched on the sides of my beach chair and watched my 11-year-old-son dive head first into the waves!
My hoped-for relaxing day at the beach was no longer. I was reminded that the only way I could enjoy one of those kinds of beach days was to go alone. I glanced over at my 17-year-old daughter with ear buds in place, relaxing, tapping her foot to the beat reverberating in her ears and “doing the beach” the way I had at her age. A pang of envy surged. Then the sharp contrast of my current reality came into focus. Here I was poised and at the ready to run into the rollicking foam to save my son. Thankfully this wasn’t necessary. Call it overprotective or just plain not crazy when I don’t have control, but it appeared I was the only mother screaming at the water’s edge for the safety of their child. I will one day learn how to be one of “them” (well, maybe not) and just sit calmly on the blanket reading a book while Mother Nature had her way with their child.
When my son surfaced he was frustrated and angry. He wanted to conquer the waves. To beat and overpower them.
Stumbling to his feet he made his way over to me and I tried to give him some tips and let him to keep trying. What the voice in my head really, really wanted to do was to crazy glue him to the blanket next to me, so that he couldn’t subject himself – or me – to the battering of the ocean any further. Not wanting to instill my fears and insecurities upon him, I did what any good mom would do – I prayed.
I held my breath and watched him, again and again, take a beating and barreling. Each time he came up he was frustrated and pissed. One of my son’s gifts is the persistence he applies to things that he wants to accomplish. So, he took a couple of breaths, scowled at the waves, rejected my advice, took a couple of more breaths and then went at it again – with a vengeance.
After a few more times, he began to think to himself (without admitting to me of course) that maybe his mom knew a thing or two about riding his boogie board back to shore. Not that I blame him for doubting me. He knows his mother well. This type of adventure and activity is not high on my achievement list.
But I did know a thing or two about life and the numerous times I felt beat up and tossed around by the waves of fear, uneasiness, doubt and disappointment. I have tumbled. And I have also risen.
Now, he held his boogie board under his arm and walked out a bit. He teetered from side to side, resisting the movement of the ocean and kept moving forward until he was past the break of the waves. And this time without hesitation, when the next swell of salty sea rose up, my son placed his boogie board in the ocean, climbed on top and road into shore!! Woohoo! He did it with gusto, impeccable timing and a mighty dollop of joy!
I watched with delight (o.k. a little fear too). I began thinking about how you never know what the next wave will be like and that maybe it would be too big for him and maybe he would tumble and maybe, maybe, maybe.
He too was thinking about how you never know what the next wave will be like. Only the thoughts that followed for him sounded something like: “I don’t know what will happen next and isn’t this exciting? I can’t wait to test my new skills? I can’t wait to feel the exhilaration and energy rush again!”
So there I was on an ordinary day in August and my son had taught me some valuable lessons about boogie boarding and life!
1. If you can move past the discomfort, with consistent action, you find yourself on the other side of what seemed impossible to conquer.
2. Timing is everything!
3. Just because you get knocked down (a bunch of times), doesn’t mean you can’t find another way to get up.
4. When you keep doing the same thing and getting the same undesired results, stand up and try something different. (thank you Einstein).
5. It’s much more fun to move your power into the flow of the nature of things than it is to dive head first into opposition.
6. Don’t be afraid to surrender and feel the whoosh of joy!
Take 100% Responsibility? Do you mean me?
I just love a day at the beach! While it wasn't an entire day, this week I was able to get away for a few hours and do some writing, reading and connecting with Mother Nature (she's so cool). Now, just so you know that I practice what I teach, I am currently reading and working on exercises in the groundbreaking new book written by Jack Canfield and Pamela Bruner, TAPPING INTO ULTIMATE SUCCESS.
As a Matrix Reimprinting with EFT Practitioner, I am continually feeding my inner growth and honing the latest tapping skills.
So, on this most amazing day at the beach I was up to chapter 4: Foundations for Success, Responsibility and Forgiveness. And the first step is to take 100% responsibility for your life; no matter what happens, who does what, etc. I must admit that at first, this seemed overwhelming and so I did some tapping (yes, I was the woman in the beach chair making strange movements with her hands!). After the resistance subsided, I was ready to really consider what this would mean for me. I like to consider myself a responsible person, but this is a totally different concept. And so, here is how this concept unfolded for me:
How much more personal power could I claim if I took 100% responsibility for my life? What would I have to BE to become the person I want to be? Then what would I have to DO? What would that look like?
The biggest impact in taking 100% responsibility for my life would be in my relationship with myself.
Yes, you read that correctly! I am going to have a love affair......with my heart! February is National Heart Health Month and so what better time to start new heart-ful rituals and refresh some old ones. Rituals don't need to be time consuming. Sometimes it's as simple as remembering to take your Omega 3 vitamin. Did you ever think about what your heart does for you? I mean, every second, of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month, of every year for your entire life....your heart is beating for you! It never lets you down. That's incredible. The heart is also a part of our colloquialism: "have a heart", "with all my heart", "the heart of the matter", "heartfelt", "let your heart be your guide", "wear your heart on your sleeve", and the list goes on!
According to the Institute of HeartMath, the heart has been scientifically proven to have an intelligence all its own and communicates with the brain. The heart has also been referred to as "the other brain." Your heart is often your signal of danger when it rapidly beats and can be used to calm and center yourself.
So, in celebration of Valentine's Day and the Month of February, here are 10 ways you too can have a love affair with your heart:
1. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. "Go the extra mile" and add 2,000 steps to your day.
2. Pace Instead of Race. Slow it down and take conscious breaths several times a day.
3. Accept The Things You Cannot Change. Let go of trying to fix everything.
4. Help others. Giving back to others is a self-ful act and good for your heart and soul.
5. Quiet the negative self-talk. Try saying I love you, I love you, I love you!
6. Get more sleep. On Sundays, set your alarm clock just 15 minutes later.
7. Watch an I Love Lucy episode and have a good belly laugh.
8. Getting it off your chest is good for your heart.
9. Smile. It's an easy way to burn calories.
10. Listen to your heart. Yes, your heart does speak to you.....close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and silently ask a question. And just listen.
Paula G. Rosario
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