So on a typical late Wednesday afternoon, I experienced a little bit of magic! Well, actually my dog Lucy did. Here we were elbow deep in 6th grade math (never a good thing), the last round of laundry was spinning, dinner was cooking, and the cell phone was buzzing. All seemed to be in order.
Suddenly the sky grew dark. The winds whipped up. The trash cans on the side of the house were being tossed about like the leaves of late fall. I tried to think of what wasn't tied down in the back yard and quickly took inventory. My son's lacrosse bounce-back (which is about 7' tall) needed to be laid on its side just in case Mother Nature was in the mood to re-enact her favorite scene from The Wizard of Oz.
All was taken care of. I've never actually been witness to a tornado, but this certainly felt menacing and a bit unnerving to me. Then the rain started, followed by thunder and lightning. Truth be told, I quite enjoy a good storm, so I propped myself up next to the window and watched as the raindrops pounded the ground.
And that is when I noticed my little dog Lucy. She was frightened. I could tell by the way she held her body and how her eyes wanted to speak to me. I quickly scooped her up and felt her shaking. I held her close and began speaking softly, telling her it was o.k. That didn't really help much. So, then I put on some soothing music and rocked her like a baby. Still shaking.
The only other thing I could think of was tapping.
Tapping, or EFT, has been a God-send in my life more times than I can count. It is like having a little bit of magic in your fingertips. If you've never heard of tapping, it is a technique that combines ancient acupressure and modern psychology. So, for instance, when you are experiencing stress, if you tap on specific points on the body - the same meridian points that are used in acupuncture and acupressure - while thinking about the distress you are feeling, you will instantly feel calm and remove the upset. I know, I know it sounds a little strange, but it works!
But, I had never thought of using tapping on my dog ..until that typical Wednesday. So, I sat Lucy in my lap and gently tapped on the top of her head. Within five minutes, she had stopped shaking! She was so calm... she jumped off my lap and went in her bed and closed her eyes. The storm was still raging, but she was no longer feeling the turmoil!
I've used tapping for over 10 years and it never ceases to amaze me. Here, I was reminded how we are all connected - yes humans and animals - through spirit, love and magic!
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Loving Boston Yet again, our world family was rocked by unforeseen tragedy this week. This time, another beloved city….Boston. It is hard to comprehend more evil, more terror. And like New York on its darkest day, there is a beautiful outpouring of love from all around the world for the lives forever changed. Our family has a particular fondness for “Bean Town”. When my daughter was young, Boston was an annual vacation for us, with an occasional jaunt to Cape Cod. What fascination did Boston hold for us? We loved the rich history of the city, the fun activities like the Duck Tour, nail-biting baseball games at historic Fenway Park and amazingly delish meals at Catch of The Day in the Italian North End of Boston. Despite the “Big Dig” at the time, it was an easy and friendly city to navigate! We loved the busy-ness of the streets on designer row and the quietness of a float in a swan boat. Much like New York City, Boston has enclaves of unique and varied flavors. I think most of all the thing that drew us back to this city time and time again was its energy. It was the collective energy of the people of Boston that we felt and found welcoming and inclusive. There was a sense of Boston pride and community and happiness in sharing a bit of their city with visitors. This is the Boston that needs to be remembered, revisited and revived.
I find it a challenge – particularly with events such as this -- to decide just how much of the news to let into my world. I want to be informed, however, most of what is reported drains my energy so, and in an act of self-love, I tend not to watch. And as my children were growing up (and even now), I definitely made sure that when they were present, the news reports were not on. What I did happen to see (gladly) this week, was an attempt at a focus on human acts of grace. There were reports of people – police and civilians – jumping in to help with no thought of their own safety. Homes were being flung open for “strangers” to stay and take respite. These acts of courage, grace and kindness are what I choose to hold on to in coming days. Spiritual author and speaker, Marianne Williamson, says that a miracle occurs anytime you experience a shift in perception…….more specifically, a shift from fear to love. May we all experience this shift and hold the light for all of humanity.
Do you every ask yourself, "what's the matter with me?" It's really a loaded question don't you think? Hate to admit it, but some days it seems like "senior moments" have set in way too early for me! And then I do something like forgetting where I put my car keys or glasses....and I ask that question. Or sometimes I fall into the grips of the cursed multi-tasking monster (even though I know better!) and suddenly everything is done half-a****.
Now that we've started our family GRATITUDE GRID, I have used it as an opportunity to add even these apparent "mistakes" to my gratitude list. At first my son thought I was cheating just to win the most gratitude posts ("hey, mom, why would you be grateful for tha-at?"). But then I explained.........see even when things look like mishaps are happening or things aren't going "right" or there is something "wrong" with me or the situation, there is always an ounce of learning and growth in it for us. While depending on the issue at hand, it can feel like wading through mud to find the gift in the pile of junk, I have found the best thing to do is stop searching for the gift. Just say thank you. The lesson or gift will show up when you least expect it!
Are You On The Grid? Question: "So how was your day?" Answer: "Just o.k" Question: "Why?" Answer: "Well nothing went right today. So and so did this to me and this one said that and I dropped this and I lost that......." Sound somewhat familiar? Sometimes it is so easy to get stuck on the things that went wrong in our days.
So, I initiated Experiment #1 with my kids. Rather than asking how their day was, I began asking, "what was great today?" This experiment didn't go so well. I'd get the look of like "you've got to be kidding me" with an answer of "nothing." Then I'd launch into a metaphysical discussion about gratitude and how when we look for the good things in our day that we begin to notice more and more of them and before you know it, you've had a great day. And I get it. Some days are more challenging than others and finding something significant to be grateful for is frankly a pain in the you know what. But that is precisely the perfect time to search! That's when I tell my kids they should be grateful for the roof over their heads, blah, blah, blah. And it's not just my kids. I too have days where looking for the silver lining seems pointless. But I do know better.....I tap and I do it anyway because quite simply it makes me feel good.
Experiment #2: Stop preaching. Even leading by example can seem a bit inauthentic when it comes to gratitude (hey look kids, yes, my foot hurts, but I'm grateful that person didn't take my foot off when they ran it over with their cart!). So we are starting a Gratitude Grid Challenge. Here's the chart that is handing on the side of the fridge. Each day, each person in the family checks in and puts a gratitude or appreciation post-it sticky in their place on the grid (hint: use post-its so that you don't have to redraw the grid each week. And you can reuse the post-its too.) At the end of each week, we will tally the posts and the person with the most posts will get a prize (i.e., extra hour of TV for the kids, an uninterrupted hour of time for mom or dad, etc.). You can see I've started off the challenge today with gratitude for my family. I will let you know how this experiment goes! Are You On The Grid? Have ideas? Would love to know how you raise the consciousness of your family!
Paula G. Rosario
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