SPARK the Rebel!
So who was your favorite rebel singer back in the day? Were you rocking out to Joan Jett (like the picture to the left)? Or was it the mellower vibe of Joni Mitchell? Don’t think Joni Mitchell falls into the rebel category? Well you may want to take a second listen!
My definition of a rebel is someone whose genius SPARK is too big to be contained and who passionately takes the path less traveled.
Some would say, that when you “grow up” and become a responsible adult, the wild and reckless rebel needs to go be a thing of the past. But I say that’s exactly when your rebel needs to be channeled! Not to wreak havoc, but to propel you in the direction of leading a SPARKtacular life!
Here’s what the ugliness can look like when you don’t allow your rebel to breathe and inspire you:
*You are simply “doing” a job
*You lose inspiration to try new things and take risks
*You settle for “good enough”
*The rebel sneaks out (because it is a part of you that cannot be denied!) and runs up the credit card or sabotages your eating plan
Now, here is what it can look like when the rebel is allowed to come out and play (instead of being suppressed) and SPARK some positive action:
*You stand confidently in your power
*You takes calculated risks that pay off big time
*You think outside the box and get noticed at work
*You bring deep commitment and passion to a project
*You SPARK others to do the same
Imagine using your SPARKrebel energy to provide you with the courage you need to talk to your boss about a promotion?
Or maybe your SPARKrebel will cause you to explore the idea you had months ago of starting your own business?
And better yet, your SPARKrebel will remind you to live happier, lighter and free-er!
3 Ways to Re-connect with Your Rebel!
Sometimes looking to the past for important threads that connect us to today can be a useful. Remember you want to connect to the positive power of the rebel, not regret. We all did our best with what we had at the time. Call up the times when you were care free. (i.e., Look to the times when you took a chance that paid off; stepped up and took over; stood up for someone else; courageous moments; silly-fun moments.) You want to get that felt sense grounded in your mind and body again.
*What did you feel like? (i.e., I felt powerful, I felt free)
*Where were these positive feelings in your body? (i.e., I felt a rush of energy in my legs that made me want to jump. I felt my lungs fill will air and I wanted to yell with joy.)
*Were you smiling?
*Were you laughing?
Take the time to revisit those SPARKmoments and journal about how you felt. Really paint a detailed account so you feel as though you are there again! If there is a videotape of your SPARKmoment, watch it over and over. If you can’t recall something, ask a friend or relative who knows you well and wants to support you in this and help you remember your rebel-ness! Keep it positive!
2. Rock it out!
Music is such a powerful force. Choose your favorite toe tapping tune and get up and move that body. Pump up the volume, roll down the windows and sing! Get your energy flowing. Feel your body come alive! Dance around the kitchen. Hum on your way to work. If music isn’t your thing, choose something that infuses positive energy flow.
3. Color Outside The Lines
Seriously? Yes, seriously! There is nothing more freeing than doing something you’re not supposed to do right? That’s the rebel energy! If you don’t have a coloring book and crayons you can borrow (wink, wink), I invite you to spend some time in a toy store and get some – the child-like energy is closely related to the rebel! The point of this exercise is to pull yourself out of the day-to-day and add glimmers of fun and freedom. This may seem silly, but isn't it nice to give yourself permission to play? Sometimes it's the simple, silly things that ignite the SPARK!
Do you have it? SPARK that is!
Actually, we each have it...our own unique way of bringing the best of ourselves to what we do each day. But did you know that being deliberate about YOU can make you happier and more successful? Being deliberate is being aware and living life on purpose. I heard a wonderful quote (wish I could remember who said it); "life happens THROUGH you, not to you"!
Each letter in SPARK, is a key attribute or quality of successful leaders. Now when I say "leader", it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be leading a team on the job. I'm referring to that AND so much more!
I'm talking about how you lead your life. Every encounter with co-workers, friends, family and "strangers" speaks volumes about how you are leading your life in that moment. If you add up all these moments over a period of time, you get a pretty good view of you; what's important to you, how you communicate, empower, engage and experience life.
STRENGTH. Your strengths aren't necessarily the things you do where you excel. The things you are "good at" are your natural abilities. And you may not even like doing the things you are naturally good at!
Your strengths can be found by answering these questions:
So what do you love to do?
What gives you energy when you do it? (or an exhaustion that feels like a high)
What consumes you when doing it that you hardly realize time has passed?
What satisfies you immensely?
What feeds your soul?
What do you do that brings out the best in you?
All the answers to these questions are strengths. Another analogy is food. If you eat nutritious food, it fuels you with energy, you can think more clearly, make better decisions, get the promotion and you have an extra skip in your step! This habit of consuming these types of food is a strength because it fuels your greatness. Using the same analogy, if you for instance were to consume junk food as a regular diet, this would be considered a habit that reinforces the opposite of a strengths....it drains you of energy, creates lethargy, brain fog and you will probably struggle in your aspirations.
1. Make 3 columns on a piece of paper. The first column is for activities, the second column is for "strengths" and the next column is for "drains".
2. For the next week, keep a short list of your work activities, social events, hang out times and to do's.
3. Keep this list top-of-mind and at-hand.
4. For each activity, check either the "strengths" column or the "drains" column.
5. How will you know which column to check? (Answer: It's all in how you feel!)
(i.e.; Are you anticipating the activity with excitement or dread? Does it make you feel accomplished or defeated? Are you focused and eager or rushing through the task unfocused? Do you feel energized or drained?)
6. Action: Review your list; decide what "strengths" you want to amp up (so you can do more of what you love) and choose what "drains" you want to minimize.
Congratulations! This is the first step to SPARK your life and business leadership!
How to SPARK Your Goals!
So it is almost mid-March and how are you feeling about the goals you've set for 2014? Are you happy with where you are? Are you still motivated or feeling defeated?
Research shows that more than half of those who set goals/resolutions at the beginning of the year have already ditched them by the end of January! This really intrigued me and I wanted to know more. Experience has shown that when we jump head first into lofty goals, and without a plan, that the success rate is dismal at best. Add a little rebel into the mix (no, no, you won't hold me down to a goal!) and, well, let's just say it isn't a formula of achievement.
Whether you have decided to scrap your goals already, revamp them or possibly take a crack at them for the first time, I've put together "5 Ways To SPARK Your Goals" to inspire a more fluid (and fun) way of goal-setting.
#1 Make them intentional.
How do you intend to be/feel when you’ve reached your goal? This is a juicy step (and deceptively powerful so don't skip it!). Take your time and really imagine it already done! Write it down in great detail or record it on your smartphone, so you can listen to it in your car, on a train or a daily SPARK reminder!
#2 Make them real.
Make them stretch-goals. It’s o.k. for it to be a little scary, AND at the same time, you don’t want to psych yourself out. So make them real.
#3 Make them visible.
Write down your goals and keep them visible in multiple places so that you can revisit over and over again during the day. Make them beautiful with different colored markers and paper so your eye and your energy will happily get sparked each time you see them!
#4 Make them easy.
One of the easiest ways to reach a goal is to break it down into bite size pieces and don't forget to schedule those tasks. It's more user-friendly (and productive) to say "today I will write chapter 1 of War and Peace", instead of scheduling in "today I will write War and Peace"!
#5 Make them loving.
Shift happens, and when it does, we can get temporarily derailed or delayed. Time for YOU to shift and be flexible. Be loving with yourself! The easiest way back into action is to take a break, do something fun to spark your energy and then return to #1!
Paula G. Rosario
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