5 Things You Shouldn’t Do To Achieve Your Goals in 2015!
So, by now many of you are "off to the races" busily working out at the gym, putting a new diet program in place, working on your dream's desire! What I absolutely adore about the age of information on the Internet is that there is no shortage of advice on how to achieve your goals. And while I am definitely implementing some of those strategies, I am also going to not do certain things. Truly.....what you don't do is just as important as what you do do!
Here are my top 5 that may be helpful to you as well:
1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparing ourselves to others or some standard can become an unconscious knee-jerk reaction. Think about it, you read someone's post on Facebook and say to yourself, "wow, they are so lucky to have such a great relationship", or "wow, I wish I was that far along (and more successful) in my business" or "wow, I wish my kids were as thoughtful as hers." It is a nightmare! Not only is comparing yourself to others detrimental to your plans and goals, it seeps in and challenges your very self-worth. Remember, it's impossible to know the intimate details of people's lives, so what you see on Facebook is just a part of their story. You truly don't know their struggles or their own personal journey. And we live in an abundant universe, so someone else's success doesn't mean you can't have yours.
Action: If this has happened to you too often, limit your time on Facebook and only check out the status of those whom you truly know. And for the rest, bless them and move on!
2. Don't Share Your Dreams...
. . .with the naysayers or Debbie Downers. Sometimes even our closest loved ones, for whatever reason, are not the best sounding boards for sharing our dreams, goals and successes. The reason why is not important because you can't be responsible for how someone else feels or reacts.
Action: Share with like-minded people who support and encourage you. Look for groups and meet-ups that are filled with individuals who have similar goals as you and who may need your support as well. Get a support buddy or hire a coach who can be objective and be the wind beneath your wings!
3. Don't Beat Yourself Up
That may sound obvious, but research shows we have thousands of thoughts going on in our head every day and most of them are not positive, supportive or loving when it comes to ourselves. We beat ourselves up for not being further along on our goals or not doing what we said we were going to do toward achieving our goals. Remember, you are where you are. You can't go back and you can't go forward until you accept that you are where you are!
Action: I am a big believer in the do-over. If you drop the ball on your goals, give yourself no more than 24-hours to boohoo about it, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, re-evaluate and start again. The two critical steps here are the boohoo part and the re-evaluating part. If you sit too long in the boohoo, you sink deeper and deeper into self-beating-dom. If you don't spend enough time re-evaluating, you may likely find yourself in the same stuck place over and over again. Maybe there is something you need to adjust about your goal; maybe you need to chunk it down so it is not so overwhelming. Use your support buddy or coach to help you through this.
4. Don't Work Too Hard
There is scientific research that shows that frequent breaks and play time is needed to achieve your goals. Scientists have proven that our brain longs for a rest period every 60 - 90 minutes. It behaves just as it does during the REM cycle during sleep. So what do you do with yourself then?
Action: Infuse just 5 - 10 minutes of something you love during the rest period. Take a spin around the block and get some fresh air. Watch a funny video on YouTube. Call a loved one for a pick-me-up. Reward your hard work with a cup of tea or a bit of dark chocolate. Whatever it is, it should rejuvenate and bring you joy.
5. Don't Ignore Your Body
Your body is your best friend, is always communicating with you and will always tell you the truth. When we are busy, we often forget to breath. We often ignore the signals we are getting from our body; either to slow down, sit down, drink water or get some sleep.
Action: Sit still and breathe slowly in and out for 5 minutes. Anything your body needs to tell you will bubble up to the surface. If it says move, move. If it says eat, eat. If it says stretch, stretch. Easy-peasy!
Paula G. Rosario
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