What's Eating You? Do you feel anxious about not being able to control yourself around all that amazing food at holiday events?
The idea of watching our weight is probably most prevalent – with the exception of bathing suit season – during the holidays, simply because of the amount of exposure we have to the foods we typically avoid!
Think about it. Your co-worker brings in baked goods. You go to the hair salon and they have candy at the front desk. The supermarket has a tasting station of the latest goodies. And you are invited to holiday parties with buffets that seem to go on for miles.
And then there are the memories. So many of our favorite holiday memories from childhood are centered around food. We recall the traditional dinners and priceless moments shared while baking the family’s tried and true cookie recipes. It is indeed our culture that equates food with love, hope and joy. Let’s face it. Food equals joy! There’s no getting around it. And this, in and of itself, is not a bad thing!
All the sights, sounds and smells during this time of year ignite a visceral response that can trigger something more than the desire to eat. Movies and the media show happy families gathered around a table of bounty with everyone enjoying and having a great time. These Norman Rockwell scenes can also trigger events from holiday’s past that were less than picturesque.
It’s more than just about the food. (It’s always more than about the food.) You see, our emotions, life experiences and memories – both good and bad – trigger something inside us that longs to be fulfilled. And for many, at least momentarily, the perfect antidote to filling this void is food. I say momentarily because afterwards many feel disappointed, angered and even shameful about their actions.
I’m not a diet or nutrition expert, but I do try to abide by all things in moderation. And this philosophy is tested for me personally during this time of festivities. If you too are challenged with not over-indulging, here is a tapping script that will help. I use it before I’m heading out to a gathering or party. And I also use a slight variation before dinner time on a regular basis.
Even though I’m afraid I may over-indulge on food at (fill in the blank), I completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel sort of anxious at the thought of not being able to stop myself at (fill in the blank), I completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel anxious about possibly over-indulging on foot at (fill in the blank, I totally and completely love and accept myself.
Begin with the eyebrow point and tap through the statements. After each breath and pause, begin the next round of tapping.
I’m both excited and anxious about going to _____________.
There are going to be so many of my favorite things to eat there.
I’m afraid I won’t be able to stop.
One bite and I can’t control myself.
It’s like I don’t have control of myself.
That worries me.
That makes me feel awful about myself.
I’ve tried and I just can’t do it.
I have so many events to attend, what if I can’t control myself at any of them.
I think about it and loath my behavior already!
I know I haven’t done anything – yet – and I already feel ashamed of my lack of control.
But it’s the holidays and I deserve to enjoy.
I know how I always feel after I over-indulge.
My body feels terrible and I feel disappointed in myself.
I don’t think I can control myself around all my favorite holiday foods.
I just feel like giving up.
I wonder if there is a way for me to have everything thing I love but not over-indulge.
What if I took smaller portions?
Could I really stop myself from getting more?
I don’t think I can.
I think I can try.
I don’t think I can.
I think I can try.
I wonder if I can go to _________ and not feel anxious about over-indulging on food.
I do have a lot of holiday events to attend.
Maybe I can test a new approach where I tap before I go and really look forward to who I’ll see at the party.
What if I take all the things I love to eat and trust I know when to stop?
I choose to take each food I love on my plate and savor each bite slowly.
I choose to listen to the signals my body is giving me so I know when to stop.
Maybe I’ll take a break and walk around. Maybe I’ll get another glass of water.
Maybe I will slowly revel in the smells and tastes and honor the experience.
I have a lot of holiday events to attend and I choose to enjoy my favorite foods and trust I know when I’ve had my fill.
By all means, enjoy the holidays and all the trimmings…guiltlessly! Try the tapping…you may be surprised how this will soon become a non-issue!
Turn On The Lights
Sometimes it is just the simplest thing that can shift your day! And then again, as Abraham (Abraham-Hicks) says, "some day's you simply can't get a whiff of bliss." We can be stubbornly stuck ("my life sucks right now and I'm perfectly content in my wallow!") and I do believe there is merit being there -- for just a short time, that is. And I get it. Getting unstuck can seem like a mountain that needs to be climbed. But then all of a sudden, something "insignificant" seems to happen and it feels like a light switch just turned on hope again. So what do you say? Want to try turning on the lights? Here are 10 ways to help with that!
10 Ways To Do & Be Happy!
Do you wake up to the news?
Do you listen to idol gossip?
Do you worry when things don’t go according to “plan”?
Well...If you’ve said yes, to even just one of these, then STOP this instant!
Yes, just stop please! And make room for more Happy in your day. You’re the boss, you’re driving the bus, you get to choose! So why not choose Happy? Here are 10 Ways to BE & DO HAPPY! These examples show the Soul Intention & Inspired Action Cards I created, but you can get started today with a simple post-it note and a smiley face!
#1: Message: I Adore You
Do I really want to exercise now? End the yes/no battle!
Leave an intention or inspiration note for yourself the night
before to propel you into action.
#2: Message: Follow Your Whimsy!
Bring some delight into someone's day. It is true. When you are kind to someone else that kindness makes you feel good. So, leave a note on a car windshield saying “thank you” or “have a great day”. You’ll feel great and so will they!
#3: Message: Beauty
Create something beautiful in your space. Perhaps it’s a flower or a jar of pretty shells or a screensaver of the beach. Beauty in your environment lifts your energy and is an instant “happy” when you are feeling drained.
#4: Message: Create, Innovate
Having a hard time writing? Creating? Planning? Well, take a break!
But before you do, leave a note for you inside your laptop, on your computer screen, send a text, email or popup message! When you return, your message will be waiting for you like a little gift to sweeten your day!
#5: Message: You are supported, Be the star of your life, What’s beautiful today?, Take action
You choose! How do you want your day to unfold? Pick a message and bring it with you to the office, leave it on your car seat, place it in your planner -- as a reminder of how you are intending your day to be.
#6: Message: Tranquility
For some of us sunscreen and a beach chair are a distant memory. But you can re-create the tranquil feeling of that lounge chair! Use all your senses to bring back the energy and feeling of tranquil bliss; close your eyes, imagine the sounds, smell the smells, feel the touch on your skin. Presto!
#7: Message: Be The Change
Yes, even here can be a place of escape! Where did you get your last great idea? Maybe not on the throne but perhaps in the shower? You visit this room many times a day. You may as well make it a pleasant experience!
#8: Message: Gratitude
Perhaps you really are not where you want to be or have the things happening (yet) in your life that you want to manifest. Surely, there is something to be grateful for, right? Whether it's clean air to breathe, someone holding a door for you to pass through or the shoes on your feet -- end your day with gratitude -- here is where hope and happy begins.
#9: Message: Trust
Making good food choices is not always easy. This is a reminder, right on the fridge, to take a moment before you choose. Take a breath, close your eyes, and trust that you will be guided to make a choice that nourishes your body.
#10: Message: Make it Intentional
Whether you choose to read or watch TV, make it an intentional choice. Something funny? Something mindless? Something educational? Something uplifting? Something thrilling? Whatever you decide, make that choice from a place of allowing something to come into your space that will bring you more happy~
Paula G. Rosario
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