5/16/2013 0 Comments
5 Practical Things (And 1 Woo-Woo Thing!) Executive Moms Need For Success!
So what are you willing to do for success? Your answer may change from time to time depending on your life circumstances. For instance, when I was working my way up the ranks of the corporate ladder, I was more willing to stay late, do tasks and projects that other people were not willing to do, and sit patiently and listen to a story that my boss had told me at least 30 times previously, while my friends were waiting for me at the happy hour watering hole. I was driven. I had a plan for success.
The next phase of my life was marriage and kids. I wasn’t prepared for the way having kids would require me to morph my success plan. (And, I was fortunate to learn many personal energy skills to help me create a new plan -- this is the woowoo part!). For instance, late nights at the office, were no longer something I was willing to do on a regular basis. In addition to this becoming a logistical nightmare, it would mean missing the precious little time I had with my kids already. Business trips were required, but instead of traveling the night before I needed to be there – which would mean an additional night away from home – I would get up and take the butt-crack of dawn flight whenever possible.
So how do executive moms make the inevitable transition in their plan and continue to achieve career success?
Here are 5 practical things that you need to know:
1. Get Real. Get real with you. This requires you to soul-search and know, in advance of last minute situations (day care calling with your child’s latest boo-boo – not serious of course), how you will respond, delegate, etc. In other words, what are you willing to let go of at work or at home.
2. Have A Backup Plan. (i.e., cover your a**). Be sure that you have staff whom are ready, willing and able to pull things together for you, should your other full-time job (motherhood) need you! Likewise, you need a good Circle of Solitude (significant other, babysitter, family, etc.) to join you in your life’s plan.
3. How Cute Is Your Kid? Very, of course! But not everyone at work needs or wants to hear about the new cutest thing your kid did. Depending upon your work environment, and position there, will help you determine just how much kid-talk is welcome.
4. Can I See You? No matter how flexible your company is, if you are upwardly mobile, or in a position of leadership, face-time is important. Be aware of important dates – the client is coming in – and this probably wouldn’t be a good time to schedule a pediatrician visit. Since motherhood is almost as predictable as the weather, emergencies aside, being strategic about your face-time is key.
5. Speak Up. Some people think that because you have had a child that your next strategy is an exit strategy. If you love your job and have ambitions, you must continue to make this known. Keep your ear to the ground and participate in important conversations, keep your finger on the pulse of what’s happening in your industry and actively let your voice be heard.
And, as promised, here is 1 WooWoo Thing:
1. Goal + Intention = Success. Chances are you are great at setting goals but setting intentions is a whole different ball of wax! An intention is the secret sauce that makes a goal achievable. When you intend for something to be, it is like you are sending out an energetic Morse Code message to the Universe to get on board and make it happen!
Goal: My goal is to grow my department revenue by x% by the 4th quarter.
Intention: I intend to confidently and easily create a plan that attracts clients who are open, interesting and eager to bring their wealth, cooperation and gratitude to the table in the fastest way possible!
See the difference? A goal states the facts. An intention brings the juiciness and positive feelings that enable you to imagine the success already and be excited about it.
Action: Next time you are goal-setting, sit down with a paper and pen (the act of physically writing adds to the positive energy of the intention) and journal about your intention or what you “see and feel” as success.
Paula G. Rosario
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